Today is Thanksgivings Day. This is not a popular holiday in China, but I love the concept to take a pause and start to think about people you should thank for.
I am reading the book written by Eugene O’Kelly: Chasing Daylight.
It is a great book, and O’Kelly has a great story – a cruel but warm story. As CEO of KPMG, O’Kelly knew he only had 3 months of life, and wrote the great book. Maybe O’Kelly will be known not for his role as head of KPMG and his 30 years service to the company, instead, he will be known about this great book which inspired many people, including me.
Circles of Friends
On the page 105 of the book, O’Kelly drew a diagram about his friends that he need to unwind.
Image in courtesy of Eugene O’Kelly, and Amazon
I had hard time to recognize his handwritting, and finally I figured out the five layers of friends:
Outtermost circle: People who because of shared experience or shared passion.
Then: Business Associates
Then: Lifetime Friends
Then: Immediate Family
O’Kelly spent about 3 weeks to say good-bye to the 1000+ friends in his outercircle. He spent enough paragraphs explain why he need to unwind all his relationships. He wanted to spend one more Perfect Moment with his friends and recall all the Perfect Moments he had with his friends. This is beautiful! He just touched the deepest and sweetest part of human nature – to cherish all the great experience, and to refresh the warmth from friendship.
On page 171, his wife asked him: “Are you prepared to leave me?”
“I think so,” he replied.
When I read about this, my heart is broken.
I would highly recommend everyone to read this book. It is not a big book. It helps to understand the meeting of life, and the value of relationship.
I have my Circles of Friends
I am also writing down a list of my relationship in my circles, and I am sure I also have 1000 friends. O’Kelly reminds me how long people get together is not a big issue, it is all about the great moment we had shared. After I create this list, I will look at each of the name and spend some serious time to recall the great time and the perfect moment we have. It must be a very enjoyable time.